In the American media in the 2010s, there is an entire cottage industry built around declarations of the decline of manhood. The specifics may vary: Women outnumber men in college, in the workforce, men are putting off marriage, men are extending adolescence well into adulthood, etc. But the general theme is the same: “Men” are allegedly on the endangered list.
I’m not going to link any of these articles here; they get enough mention in the mainstream media. Besides, I don’t want you to bother reading them. It’s a waste of your time as a man. It’s not that I don’t believe in having a healthy discussion or even debate about it. There’s always room for debate. However, I just don’t believe that reading the eulogies of the American/Western Male will benefit you as an individual. And I’ll tell you why:
- Such content is sensational and meant to garner clicks, usually from women and beta males. Titles such as “The End of Men” and “Are Men Necessary?” are absolute in their suppositions and obviously designed to enrage men and cheer lead bitter, single (usually 30+ year old) women. By now we all should be aware of how the media use ridiculous banner headlines to steer traffic. Spend a day on Yahoo’s home page if you don’t believe me, but you’ll do yourself a huge favor if you avoid these kinds of hooks or at the very least read them with an enormous grain of salt. (Besides, with only two sexes, one must always be outnumbering the other at something. Why is that ever news?)
- Whatever realms women dominate aren’t your concern. It’s true, females outnumber males in higher education, but look at what’s happened to higher education. An explosion of ridiculous humanities majors and politically correct (anti-male) speech restriction, coupled with a decline in performance in math and hard sciences. If women want to dominate the Womens Studies major to the tune of $200,000 worth of debt, let them. Likewise, whether or not they dominate in social media (i.e., being advertised to) is of little consequence to you as a man. Your role on this earth is to produce, not consume. Using social media is in and of itself not a unique talent or even a talent at all. As far as the workforce goes, recognize that a large portion of the female workforce will disappear in their 30s and 40s as they stay home to raise kids. Beyond that, whether a woman wants to be a department manager or Executive Vice President at the expense of having a family is her decision and not yours. Is it possible you will run into bitchy female colleagues or bosses in your career? Certainly. But you’ll meet all kinds of assholes wherever you go, and you’ll always have to adapt in order to deal with them as individuals. It would be great to go back to the days when men had work as an escape valve from their wives and kids, but those days are gone if they ever even existed the way we think they did. Deal with the present and plan for the future.
- Challenges to your masculinity are just that. The two-pronged attack of the fem-centric agenda consists of 1) lambasting you for being masculine, and 2) questioning incredulously why so many men are not masculine any more. It’s simplistic to say the whole thing is a giant shit test, but that’s the way you have to look at it. There are people out there who will gain when you repress your masculine side, and you will be the loser in this zero sum game. Don’t let this happen. As a man you will always have to soldier forth boldly and without apology, and recognize attempts to rein you in as emasculation and nothing more.
As always, the best means to self-improvement and freedom is through your actions. Your words will help you too, but it is folly to get into a pissing match with people about issues such as this. If you’ve ever wasted ten minutes scrolling through the comments section of an online news article you know what I mean. You’re not on the debate squad, you’re here to produce for yourself and your family if you have one. That means saying “fuck it” to the echo chamber out there repeating the same tireless shit about men and their supposed array of faults and inadequacies. If your opinions conflict with your goals, keep them private. Your not Men, you’re A MAN, and all you can really do is make your life rewarding and enjoyable for you the way that you know best. Once you’ve accumulated some capital you can offer help to others if that’s what you want to do, but do it for your reasons and not society’s.
(I also recommend against joining movements such as “Men’s Rights.” You’re not likely to change anything in your own life, and you are likely to draw the attention of opposing groups, including the government, which will only create roadblocks to the goals of your group. You don’t need a bunch of protesters and bureaucrats to solve your problems. Be a man and figure your shit out.)
I sound like I’m writing a cabin in the woods manifesto, but that’s not really so. You needn’t drop out of society to “go your own way.” The beauty of being your own man is that if you include game, exercise, and some degree of status, you will attract women better than you would as one of the scores of beta males out there hoping to ingratiate themselves to womyn via self-castration. Rise above the cacophony, and you’ll find there are females out there whose values and desires coincide with yours and, short term or long, will want to take care of you the way a woman should.